I feel the need to reply to Ms. Brand’s condescending article regarding “The Ratio.” When the younger female, typically believing she is more mature than her male counterpart, finally matures to an age when she is capable of maintaining a serious relationship, she realizes that males who are interested in anything beyond a few months of bliss are few and far between. The progression to bitterness that accompanies these complaints stems not from wanting a relationship, but from a lack of “dick”, to use the parlance of our times. The problem with these deprived shrews is they hold the archaic belief that craving “dick” will brand them a “slut.” Now and then, an adventurous soul will explore her sexuality and realize all she has been missing.
This physically satisfied person eventually focuses on the emotional needs of individuals and soon realizes that relationships are about how an individual can care and love another person, and not focus on selfish needs such as sex, attention and so forth. No doubt Ms. Brand has had many relationships, serious or not, with many people, but she is implicitly making the mistake of equating sex and serious relationships in her argument.
Clearly Ms. Brand believes she is not at fault if she cannot find a decent man. One could point out to Ms. Brand that we are all works in progress, and perhaps a little introspection, as well as cosmetics, might be prescribed. What about all the men left from her sub-standard mathematics that will not give her the time of day?
Ugly, boring, young, or otherwise undateble girls have used “The Ratio” as an excuse to maintain their placidity for too long. My advice is to stop looking for a husband and participate in the activity for which we have all decided to go to university; that is, self improvement. Quality men desire quality women. The most attractive women I have met are full of surprises and see through the facades of life though still enjoy it.
Everyone needs physical attention from their preferred sex, and to deny oneself is to maintain a state of perpetual frustration only a Buddhist could alleviate. If Ms. Brand is truly bothered by not having a “relationship” then I suggest she meditate on the meaning of the word before proclaiming her availability through a campus wide publication again.
One final point of advice: Whining is extremely unattractive.
Matt Arcidy ENG ’04 [email protected] 508-364-7529