Sometimes, we want people to stay in our lives so badly — people who feel like home, and people we would do anything to keep. But eventually, there comes a time when they have to go.
Not everyone is meant to stay forever. Some people are only meant to be with us for a season, some we outgrow them or other times, they outgrow us.
One of the hardest pills to swallow is letting someone go when you still love them.
For a long time, I tried to keep everyone around — including the ones who were good for me and the ones who weren’t. I wanted to hold onto every connection, even when it hurt me, because losing them felt scarier than losing myself.
Sometimes, we keep people around for comfort, not love.
We hold onto them because we are scared we’ll never find that feeling or experience those moments again: the late-night conversations, the familiar laughs and the way it felt when it was good.
I believe that people are unique, so it’s impossible to replicate exactly what you had with one person.
But sometimes, you have to let go anyway. If you don’t, you’ll drown trying to keep something afloat that was always meant to sink.
I feel like I’ve given up so much of myself for so many people. I realize now that some people change so much that there’s no point in holding on anymore.
You can still honor the good memories. You can still love what it once was. But you cannot sacrifice yourself for a past that no longer exists.
Sometimes things are exciting, beautiful and electric, but that doesn’t mean they’re meant to last forever.
I keep trying to convince myself that someone could just be going through a bad time or that things aren’t always like this. But all that does is prolong the hurt for both of us.
The truth is that they are showing up exactly how they want to, and sometimes that’s just not how I need them to.
The hardest part isn’t losing them — it’s losing who you were when you loved them. And sometimes, it feels like such a waste to have spent all that time and love only for it to lead nowhere.
But, spending time with the wrong people has taught me what not to accept. It showed me the parts of myself that deserve more.
This year, I feel like I’ve been slowly losing my spark. Each day, I feel bogged down by the wrong connections, the wrong expectations and the wrong love.
I know that the right people won’t make you question yourself or make you feel like a burden for just existing.
And yet, this year, I’ve questioned myself more than ever, wondering whether I’m always the problem or if I’m even a good person.
The doubt got so loud that at one point, I wondered if I had been a terrible person in a past life and that’s why I felt so heavy, and so punished.
Sometimes, the relationship just isn’t the same anymore, and we have to let it go — not only to make space for new ones, but to create a safe place for ourselves to breathe again.
As this year comes to a close, I’m realizing that for far too long I’ve been holding my breath so that people wouldn’t leave.
I’ve been careful with every step and every word, and I’ve begun to break under the weight of the strain — there’s only so much holding you can do before you fall apart.
Loving them felt like setting myself on fire just to keep them warm.
Now I see that maybe letting go isn’t just about losing someone — it’s about finally choosing yourself. So, as the semester ends, and you’re reflecting on how the year went, think about that.
Think about who you want to let into your life moving forward. Because sometimes, someone isn’t a bad person, but they’re definitely not meant for you anymore. It’s heartbreaking, but it’s okay.
I begged the universe to let me hold on a little longer — even when all the signs told me to let go.
You deserve to breathe without fear, and love without breaking yourself into smaller pieces — including in your friendships, relationships and in yourself.
Ultimately, you deserve to find love that feels like home, without hurting your heart to stay.
