PEARSON: Hooking up

I hooked up with this guy I met on Ashford Street.  I can’t remember anything that happened, but I see him on campus all the time. He doesn’t say anything, and it’s like he doesn’t remember either, but I’m sure he does. Should I say something to him?

My Ashford Love Story

Ah, Saturday night on Ashford Street. It’s ironic that I wish I could forget most of what happens on Ashford, but here you are, trying to remember. What about the night was so special that you want to remind your gentleman caller of your one-night stand each time you pass on Commonwealth Avenue?

Clearly, the term one-night stand means that your romance has the same expiration date as a California Roll from Star Market. I say that it’s often better to enjoy the sexy night you spent together, and then move on with your life. Remember, alcohol brought you two together, and it’s entirely possible that it’s already brought him together with some other girl by now.

To answer your question, MALS, no, you shouldn’t say anything to him. He either doesn’t remember your time together, or he’s trying to pretend it never happened. Neither option would call for you to jog his memory in order for you to gain some sort of emotional closure. Just move on, but as I mentioned last week, use the experience to improve upon your next Saturday night hookup, and maybe this time that boy will want seconds.

I had a crush on a boy in high school. We were friends during high school and I always really wanted to date him, but senior year rolled around and I was going to prom with someone else when he hinted that he was interested. I was heartbroken that I was already going with someone else. We still text each other every now and then, but we don’t hang out when we go home over the summer, mainly because I’m too nervous.

Too Scared to Ask

There are two caveats when asking out a friend:

1) You could be risking a possible friendship with him if he says no.

2) You could alienate and embarrass yourself from his friend group.

So, go for it! Ask the guy out over the phone or in person, (no texting or Facebook chat). I definitely understand your hesitation, but nothing great is ever achieved without a little risk. Also, the rising blood pressure is good for your body, so stretch your capillaries a bit and get your heart pumping.

Remember, human intuition is an amazing thing. If you think he likes you, he probably does. Lingering eye contact doesn’t lie, and sexual tension is an absolutely real, measurable thing.

I’m a freshman guy, and my roommate keeps coming back with these girls every weekend. I wanna hook up too! What’s the best way to seal the deal at parties?

Horny, Alone, Tired

As I always say, freshman year is for hooking up, and if you’re not hooking up, then you’re missing out. At Boston University, with a student body that’s over 60 percent female, (and a large portion of your competition is at least a closeted homosexual), you should be able to meet women pretty easily.

First off, definitely no handshake during introductions at parties. This isn’t a business luncheon of young executives from Ernst & Young, it’s a big mess of debauchery where the majority of guests are going to wake up next to a stranger the morning after. Break the mold by offering a hug, or just wave and say ‘hello.’

In between songs, you should allow for the girl to change positions, or, if you’ve gotten hard during the dance, to allow her a few moments without your penis poking into her.  This is also an excellent opportunity to rotate her to where she is facing you, in order to move in for a kiss during the break. If that goes well, you can make out during the next song.

Finally, the end of the night comes, people start grabbing their coats, and you should be surveying the room. Look around for any girls you’ve been dancing with, and ask them if they have a way home. Offer to split a cab, or ask if they need to walk home with someone else. It’s a stupid line, but you’d be surprised how often it works. Be nice, be genuine and don’t put pressure on yourself to go home with someone else, and you may even find that you’re having more fun without the sex.

Ultimately, people go to these parties to get drunk and sleep with a stranger. Cash in on that goal! You could be that guy that MALS sleeps with! Just promise me that you’ll always smile when you see her walking down Comm. Ave.

Luke Pearson a weekly columnist for The Daily Free Press. He can be reached at lpsexquestions@gmail.com