I love drama when they are on stage or on television. In real life, not so much. There are people that love to create drama for themselves and I tend to avoid these people as much as possible.
You know the type of person I’m referring to; the person that only asks you how you are doing because they want to share your latest gossip with others. I know that in return these people will share gossip with me, but really, who cares? Why do any of us need to know the latest goings on of everyone around us? Ignorance is bliss!
I understand the joy a gossiper may receive from knowing all about people’s personal lives. Yet I feel like these people lose out on so much more in life. I would never be able to become close friends with someone who is a gossip, nor would I ever be able to have a real conversation with that kind of person. I could talk about trivial things – the weather, homework, or my love of granola, for example – but it can never go further than that. If you can’t keep other people’s lives private I know you will not be able to do the same for me.
I also avoid people that always complain. I can’t stand it when people repeat the same script everyday: “My life is so hard. I don’t want to do this. Why do things always happen to me.”
Really? Get over yourself. Everyone is entitled to have a day like this once in a while, but if someone is constantly in this state of mind they need to get perspective, and fast. I can’t stand being near these people that spend all of their time complaining about things. If you spend time with these people it will only drain you and that is precisely why I avoid these people.
I also can’t understand people that talk about others behind their backs. If I have a problem with people, I confront them face-to-face.
Yes, this life philosophy could get me into trouble, but I’m fine with that. I would rather not live my life hoping that another person doesn’t find out what I said about them. Rest assured, loyal readers, that if I have a problem with you, you will find out, because I am not going to keep my feelings about you to myself. I will easily pay you a compliment, but I can criticize in equal measure.
Honesty is hard for some people, but it is the best policy. I love drama, but in my real life I like to be authentic, and I hope the same is true for you.
Maria Gellepes is a senior in the College of Arts and Sciences and a weekly columnist for The Daily Free Press. She can be reached at mg887@bu.edu.
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