“What would your younger self not believe about your life today?” a level two question of “We’re Not Really Strangers” asked.
“My friends,” I said.
“We’re Not Really Strangers,” is a three-level card game of questions and wildcards created to “deepen your existing relationship and create new ones.” Level one questions are about self-perception. Level two questions are intended to create a connection as per the level’s name. Reflection — level three — has the players reflect on their answers, their past, and how to improve to be the better version of themselves.
Warning: the questions are uncomfortable, but they allow you to tap into the power of vulnerability.
The game’s beauty is bringing people together based on who they are today. Their present is understood by their pasts and who they would like to become. Understanding the people around you leads to meaningful relationships and connections that can last a lifetime.
Growing up, I had my friends but longed for my people. At moments, I felt lonely and misunderstood. I now realize everyone has felt this way. Fast forward through four years of multiple highs and lows, I now surround myself with people who mean something to me. I find myself with a group of friends that, while we all have different upbringings and backgrounds, are loving and genuine.
Brené Brown — professor and researcher on emotions of shame, vulnerability and leadership — defines connection as “the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard and valued.”
Connecting with people that value your presence creates security that only meaningful and deep relationships can bring. You remember you are not alone. As humans, our mental well-being is associated with our relationships. If we lack deep connections, a void will exist within us.
A friend once told me that if we could survive this world alone, we wouldn’t have billions of people on Earth. You can live, but you will not feel alive. These connections are what keep us moving.
So here is a reminder from the “We’re Not Really Strangers” Twitter account — “Be more interested in understanding others than being understood.”
A passer-by who you had one conversation with could be a lifetime connection. People are in your life for a reason. They’re here to teach you something. The bonds you develop with people will peel back a new layer of yourself that can help you grow.
There is a reason why people find their lifetime friends during college. We all have something in common, you just need to figure out what that is. Some people might not have experienced what you have, but the ones who try are there to stay.
To those who feel like the people around them are just strangers — explore, ask questions and be curious about who they are.
To those who have found their people, maintain those connections and continue asking vulnerable questions.
On the red box of the game, it says, “come curious, leave connected.” Listen to the game.
“There is a reason why people find their lifetime friends during college.” I couldn’t agree with this more. Beautifully written and so touching.