Op-Ed, Opinion

OP-ED: I did not change my profile picture to the French flag

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So, your profile picture is important to you.

It’s a photo of: you laughing on a beach, you with your family #Hawaii2015, your high school senior portrait. It’s how you want your friends, family and even strangers to perceive you — a valued part of your reputation.

In the wake of the Paris attacks, social media exploded with French flags, tweets, political rants, shared articles and “#throwback” abroad pictures in front of the Eiffel Tower. The support for our foreign ally was evident — never before had I seen so much red, white and blue plastered across the faces of my “Facebook friends.” They stood in solidarity over the interweb, pledging support, raising awareness and sending silent prayers.

Yet, I felt guilty. I felt guilty for not joining the mass of “Facebook Friends” who temporarily changed their profile pictures to support France. An action purely meant to display support, I hesitated over the button, and asked myself, why? Why do I feel compelled to justify my support via my profile picture?

The purpose of social media is to publish your life, your thoughts, your “likes” online. So naturally, our first reaction is the need to show everyone our acknowledgement of what was happening across the globe. We want our reactions published, posted and tweeted.

There is nothing wrong with this sentiment. Millennials make up a quarter of the nation’s population, with 71 percent of teens between 13 and 17 using Facebook. Social media has become an integral part of our being, an example of who we are and how we want to be perceived. The attack in Paris was a horrific nightmare that warranted a response — and the immediate, universal response happened to be millions of users changing their profile pictures.

This has been condemned repeatedly. It is not necessarily an idle gesture, but it is also not a highly actionable one.

I came across the term “slacktivism,” a phenomenon coined by the University of British Columbia’s Sauder School of Business. The term is described as using “likes” and actions like the profile picture change to “associate with a cause without committing resources to support it.” People have commented that the action is not proactive, that it is a byproduct of our generation’s incapability to step away from the digital facade we have made for ourselves.

However, is this wrong? Are the millions of social media users wrong to use Facebook, Instagram and Twitter?

I did not change my profile picture because I believed that it wasn’t an honest representation of who I was. I knew I would be changing my photo to appease the masses, not to display the type of solidarity that I wanted, or felt. In contrast, many people did change their pictures to a striped blue, white and red because this was their personal way to stand alongside of France. To them, it is a symbol of positive support for France and the victims of the attacks.

There is no right answer.

Social media works as the mediator between the individual and the world. Use it to your advantage, but don’t let it dictate who you are. That picture of “you laughing on a beach” only holds as much importance as you allow it to.

Jessica Roey, [email protected] 


  1. Well written.

  2. Nous sommes comme des papillons qui battent des ailes pendant un jour en pensant que c’est l’éternité – Carl Sagan
    Not to change the subject suddenly to tragedy, but ….. Imagine a Facebook Portrait flag captures all the heartbreak—Paris, San Bernadino, Beirut–all the incidents, so that we can stand in solidarity with all of the victims. These acts of terrorism have rocked my world. If they have devastated you as they have devastated me, I have worked really really hard to come up with a flag that captures the totality of it. I have laid out the details and I am super excited to share it with anyone who’s interested. Also, I have brainstormed with people about FIFTEEN things that each of us can do, no matter who you are, to make the world a better place and help ease everybody’s pain. But mostly, I am excited about the flag.
    Read more at THE PICKFORD WORD at moviesforyourmind.net, our blog entitled RED, WHITE, and SACREBLEU.