The truth is, most of us don’t feel found all the time. We find pieces of ourselves in strange places — a spontaneous road trip, a solo walk across campus or a late-night conversation that unlocks something we didn’t know we needed to say. You’re not behind. You’re not broken. You’re in the messy middle — and that’s where the best things start.

Dear Abby: I have to confess, I’m thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend. Don’t get me wrong, he’s a great guy and I still love him, but we’ve been fighting a lot recently, and it’s draining...

Dear Abby: My ex and I just split and in her last text to me she asked if we could still be friends. I’m still really hurt, but I really do love and miss her — but how can I settle for just being a...

TikTok houses what I like to call “BreakupTok,” a trend where users can discuss breakups, share experiences and give advice. As someone who enjoys reading through Pinterest quotes and relating to other people’s experiences, I love “BreakupTok” and how it allows my own experiences to feel heard and seen. 

Once I scroll deep enough through my camera roll to hit the time period of my past relationship, I begin to feel anxious, expecting to be reminded of everything, regardless of whether there are pictures of us right away. Before I even reach this time, I can already feel a pit forming in my stomach.