This is the trick of self‑improvement culture: It trains you to treat feelings like errors. Don’t get me wrong — it is great at the start, like training wheels. I, too, found some useful tips in “Atomic Habits,” a self-help book by James Clear, a researcher of habit formation. It hands you a template and calls it support — but applauds only when you trim yourself to fit.
When implementing these practices, keep in mind that you can start whenever you want to. As a matter of fact, start as soon as possible. You do not need to wait for Monday, the end of the month or Jan. 1 to make a difference in your life.
Ghosting may be incredibly rude for someone to do, and it shouldn’t be the only way to end a relationship or interaction, especially a serious one. I try not to end most interactions by ghosting, but I think sometimes it's natural and justified to say goodbye by disappearing.
