Learning how to put yourself first is not selfish — it is necessary. The true skill lies in finding a healthy balance between independence and socialization in order for both sides to be appreciated to the fullest. To be quite frank, sometimes I want to sit alone — not because I’m lonely or feel left out, but because I crave the peace of my own company. So maybe sitting alone at lunch isn’t a sob story after all — it’s a sign of independence and peace.